As many other GenX adults, I find myself helping my young twenty-something launch into the real world, and now caring for aging parents. Caring for a family member with dementia often leads me to look for fun things to do. While watching a movie is good in a pinch, my primary goal is to stimulate the brain as much as possible without causing frustration.
I often gauge activities based on mood, but here are some things I’ve found to be entertaining—for everyone involved:
🎨 Painting – Freestyle
Just putting paint on paper or even rolled out brown packing paper works best. I originally bought plain plaster vases to paint but quickly realized that, spatially, the concept of a 3D vase was too complex. However, painting on flat paper was a great success.
Tip: Lead and encourage—remember there are no rules to art; just have fun.
WHAT TO SKIP: Pass on word search and crossword puzzles. I really though large print font would be easier, and sadly with dementia and other cognitive diseases, word and math puzzles can be too challenging and cause frustration.
🎶 Play Music When Possible
I find instrumental music to be the most relaxing. Jazz is interesting because its variation seems to stimulate the brain more, but without the distraction of lyrics.
🚗 Sightseeing
Since we happen to be in the holiday season, looking at Christmas lights by car has been a lot of fun. We slow down in front of the more impressive displays and discuss what we like. If it’s not holiday time, map out a route to look at interesting historical buildings, or even buildings that may bring back some nostalgia.
🍽️ Eating Out
I’ve found that going out for lunch (or breakfast) is great because doing things earlier in the day is easier and less stressful. Later times can be challenging as energy and focus often decline. Any activity that requires walking, decision making, (structured event) should be scheduled earlier in the day.
I recommend choosing restaurants that are:
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Quiet
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Well-lit
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Have a nice view (when possible)
Consider the environment: Direct sun can be too hot, but a windy, shady table can be too cold.
Managing the Menu:
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Menus can be overwhelming. I typically read off food choices that I know my family member will like and try to narrow them down based on their feedback.
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When the server arrives, I have my order ready and place it quickly, handing the menus back. If the menus are left out, it just gets confusing.
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Reassure your family member that the order is in and they made a great choice.
Finally, I always make sure that I try to map out routes and walking paths that are flat and free of trip hazards. Many with dementia have problems with spatiality, so curbs are especially dangerous. Go slow and be patient! A fall can ruin everyone’s day.
